Upcoming Online Programs and Events
“Honoring Conflict as a Pathway to Love” (7-week-program)
Starting Sunday, October 2nd, 2022 at 6 p.m. CET / 12 p.m. EDT
Human relationships inevitably stumble into difficult patterns of conflict. And so many of us look for help to get rid of that. We, at The Art of Relationship, work differently. We believe conflict is a primary source of, and the path to connection and intimacy. For us, everything in life is relationship and thus, where the deepest healing can happen.
What is it about conflict that makes us so uncomfortable to face? Certainly, it is about a lot of pain, despair, and loss. As we go deeper, we start to uncover a lot of fear - as we encounter the threat of being vulnerable. This is the root of our emotional reactivity. And then we resort to the defensive - and protective - mechanisms that we’ve “practiced” over many years - all of which drag us deeper into a downward spiral of blaming and judging. It’s a difficult habit to break.
And what is it about that spiral that makes it so difficult to break? Because we get trapped in our negative narrative, our vital, precious stories - the old ones that we’ve been telling ourselves for a long time and that we truly believe, in fact rely on.
And how can conflict help us get beyond that? It drags us face to face with that vital story. The other holds a mirror to ourselves, showing us what needs healing. We can let go of the blaming and reconsider meeting our needs in new ways.
If we’re willing to see conflict as an opportunity to encounter this mirror, we see the ineffectiveness (and destructiveness) of running from it. We empower ourselves and our partner by shifting from a childhood way of relating (criticizing the other), to a more mature, adult way, taking responsibility to acknowledge and change our story.
True commitment to another person involves a commitment to yourself. This means that we stay truthful, especially to those parts of ourselves that we abandoned long ago. This is of course challenging work. Our group work will provide the support and guidance to learn how to change your relationship to conflict - to honor it instead of avoiding it. To actually “embrace the fight!”. In doing so, move from separation to connection with our life relationships!
Our 7-week, embodied practice group will include both teachings and practice, with plenty of time for working together to put the tools to work with your own issues and circumstances.
We welcome participants from any relationship constellations - whether partnership, friendship, parent/child (from 18 years), or siblings and regardless of sexual or gender choices.
What conflict skills you will learn:
Cost: with commitment to the full 7-week program
Early Bird (before September 16th):
Total:
420 USD/EUR (individual)
770 USD/EUR (relationship pairs)
After September 16th:
Total: 455 USD/EUR per person
Total amount to be paid at the beginning.
To enroll, or talk to us, email at contact@artofrelationship.org
We are planning to offer a continuation of the group for a second and third 7-week cycle. Each cycle will take us deeper with our conflict skills.
What is it about conflict that makes us so uncomfortable to face? Certainly, it is about a lot of pain, despair, and loss. As we go deeper, we start to uncover a lot of fear - as we encounter the threat of being vulnerable. This is the root of our emotional reactivity. And then we resort to the defensive - and protective - mechanisms that we’ve “practiced” over many years - all of which drag us deeper into a downward spiral of blaming and judging. It’s a difficult habit to break.
And what is it about that spiral that makes it so difficult to break? Because we get trapped in our negative narrative, our vital, precious stories - the old ones that we’ve been telling ourselves for a long time and that we truly believe, in fact rely on.
And how can conflict help us get beyond that? It drags us face to face with that vital story. The other holds a mirror to ourselves, showing us what needs healing. We can let go of the blaming and reconsider meeting our needs in new ways.
If we’re willing to see conflict as an opportunity to encounter this mirror, we see the ineffectiveness (and destructiveness) of running from it. We empower ourselves and our partner by shifting from a childhood way of relating (criticizing the other), to a more mature, adult way, taking responsibility to acknowledge and change our story.
True commitment to another person involves a commitment to yourself. This means that we stay truthful, especially to those parts of ourselves that we abandoned long ago. This is of course challenging work. Our group work will provide the support and guidance to learn how to change your relationship to conflict - to honor it instead of avoiding it. To actually “embrace the fight!”. In doing so, move from separation to connection with our life relationships!
Our 7-week, embodied practice group will include both teachings and practice, with plenty of time for working together to put the tools to work with your own issues and circumstances.
We welcome participants from any relationship constellations - whether partnership, friendship, parent/child (from 18 years), or siblings and regardless of sexual or gender choices.
What conflict skills you will learn:
- Easing resistance to conflict
- Working with judgment and criticism - the heart of conflict
- Finding the real issues beneath a conflict
- Setting clear and caring boundaries
- Coming to terms with hurt, sadness and anger
- Practice new ways of speaking - or not speaking – up
- Different ways of communicating your needs
- Opening awareness on how you project your own story to your partner and learning to be more vulnerable and compassionate
Cost: with commitment to the full 7-week program
Early Bird (before September 16th):
Total:
420 USD/EUR (individual)
770 USD/EUR (relationship pairs)
After September 16th:
Total: 455 USD/EUR per person
Total amount to be paid at the beginning.
To enroll, or talk to us, email at contact@artofrelationship.org
We are planning to offer a continuation of the group for a second and third 7-week cycle. Each cycle will take us deeper with our conflict skills.